BUSINESS LESSONS 2: Limited Human Relations

In business, a businessman should act, move and think like a businessman. You should be trustworthy or at least appear to be worthy for anybody’s trust otherwise no one will engage business with you.

How should a businessman act, move and think like a businessman?
To act, move and think like a businessman is no easy task. It is always saddled with a great burden which will certainly limit the ordinary human relation.

Pleas be guided by these recommendations:

1. Limit your shame and embarrassment. Say an absolute NO on matters not necessary to business. Don’t be carried away by personal relations, business is business. Don’t yield to a request by reason of personal relations alone, think always of the business advantage you might gain therefrom – don’t compromise.

2. Limit trust and confidence. There is NO real friends in business; you only have the clients [consumer], the partners, the providers [producers] , the agents. All of them are ready to take advantage against each other when opportunity comes. Nothing prohibits them to betray you at a right time. In business, absolute trust and confidence is only a worthless whim; it is not really required to effectively run a business.

3. Don’t be deceived by the “love” trap. Businessmen usually get an “easy” girl to fill their feelings of emptiness or the need to be loved. This is the first ingredient for disaster. The errors of some businessmen is that they think of their business too much but they don’t think too much about their “love”, they will get that “love” in a hasty manner based on the delusion that they were so busy with anything more important.
Businessmen, please be guided by these line of thought:
a.) Businessmen does not really need love, they need profits and gains.
b.) If they need love, it does not mean a hasty prepaid love. Search for a better and “true love”, dont’ entertain the illusion that you are too busy and that you have no time. A real businessman has full control and absolute management of his time, not a slave of time.
c.) If they need prepaid love, it does not mean a compromise to the business. Love does not mean a ruin to the business. If money can buy “love”, it means that money is much more important than “love”.
Oftentimes, the business bankruptcy is not caused by misadministration or mismanagement BUT by the lover’s squandering – lover that has no regard on the hardships of business efforts.

4. Limit frequent and casual connections. Frequent and casual connections will create an unnecessary personal intimacy if tolerated.

5. Trust NO ONE even your partners, clients, providers and agents. Always be ready on their infedilities; be ready to replace them and to look for alternatives when they bring misfortunes or when they no longer serve their business functions. They are just humans with human motives and betrayal capabilities.

6. Always be suspicious on all dealings and business transactions. When business presentations suggest an extreme gain on your part, there is a greater percentage that it is a deception. Evaluate it properly and reject it when necessary, don’t be tempted by the offered gains for it is only a cheap bait. Remember, business is not only about discussions on gains.

7. Don’t agree on any dealings just because of a friendly smiles and gestures. Human being can always change the appearance in accordance with his purpose.

8. If business concepts are still not clear with your apprehensions, consult an impartial businessman or any business expert. However, to produce a more convincing findings, ask a second opinion from another consultant to double check the reliability of the business expert’s opinion.

9. Close supervision maintains and upgrades the efforts. Don’t allow business agents and associates to take absolute control on their jobs. Issue orders and policies from time to time according to business demands. Failure to abide the issued orders or policies is an insubordination.

10. A businessman should have a firm attitude. An attitude which signifies that you knew your function more than anybody else; an attitude which signifies that you cannot be dictated what to be done.

11. Don’t tolerate and don’t accept flatteries. They are just playing the weakness of human emotions. A businessman should be rational and practical, NOT a conceited animal. Business losses follows flatteries.

12. Don’t yield on the powers of tears. The greatest mistake of mercy is NOT the smiles of the proponent but the tears of those who pity. Businessmen should be aware of this. Tears may be equated with tears but not with money.

If friendship and other special relations will be destroyed in the name of business, abandon that business. BUT if friendship and other special relations will destroy the business, abandon those friends.

IN ALL KINDS OF BUSINESS, TRUST HAS ALWAYS BEEN A GREAT MISTAKE [2005, by PWA]

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